Every so often in life you hit something you never expected and there is no clear path to the next step. If you’ve run up against such a challenge, here are a few thoughts and phrases that have continued to come to mind.  Maybe they’ll be helpful to you when you face something similar.

1. Next Best Action
2. Future Focused
3. Service Minded
4. Let your words build rather than destroy.
5. Hug those you love a lot.
6. Don’t let bitterness cross our doorway.
7. Give 0 energy to things I can’t control.
8. Is it in my power to change something?
9. NO BCD.  Blame/Complain/Defend. You need all the energy you can get for the next step.  I’m responsible for my attitude and response.
10. What is before you matters more than what’s behind.  There’s no changing the past.
11. Do no harm.
12. Head up/shoulders back.  Circumstances can impact you but they do not define.
13. Count your blessings.  They are everywhere.
14. Sometimes the things that happen to you happen for you.  Be looking for the message.
15. You find out who your friends are and you are lucky to have them.
16. Trying times make you better or bitter.  That’s largely up to you.
17. Lean on those who have offered a shoulder.  You don’t have to carry things alone.
18. Seeking help isn’t weakness; it’s strength.
I’ll no doubt struggle to apply the above list myself, but it’s what I keep coming back to.  Thanks for listening.

You often hear of those that have had great successes having at one time experienced great failures.  The maxim that you have to go through the bad to experience the good is one we often repeat to our players and to ourselves.  While the truth that hard times are to be expected to set up the good is one we should accept and allow to give us patience, it shouldn’t numb us to examining what our part is in the hard times we may be facing.  Hard work is a given but hard times may be caused or at least prolonged by things completely within our control.  If you got under a weight on the bench you couldn’t get up, laying there under it isn’t going to change that fact. It will take time, discipline, and WORK on our behalf to be able to come back to it and move that obstacle.  It’s not just our job to ENDURE the hard stuff, it’s our job to work to get out of it by growing our skills, strength, knowledge, and character.  Will we go through hard times?  Yes.  Will we grow through them?  Well, that’s more up to us than we often realize.

During a workout on the beach recently I had several thoughts come together on prayer in an unexpected way.  It’s well-known that there’s something magestic in watching dolphins be themselves when you have the time and opportunity.  It reminded me of a few truths related to our prayer lives
  1. Just because you know it’s there doesn’t mean you now where it will be seen next.  I tried to time the patterns of those I watched assuming intervals and directions would be fairly consistent.  At times this was the case but often times they were nowhere to be found.  God’s timetable and our own are often not the same.  As frustrating as this is, it makes the time’s we do see His work that much more special.
  2. Expect something big when you least expect it.  While most of the time is spent seeing just a fin or occasional tail slap, sometimes, you get a full jump.  You have to be looking for it.  God can take a prayer you haven’t seen answered for so long you’ve stopped asking and show you it was never off His radar.
  3. It’s easier to see when you’re not by yourself.  9 of 10 times I see them either with a partner or in a group..  Sharing our prayers with others gives us strength.
There are more that I could share but that’s enough for now.  Hope you can enjoy this perspective the next time you’re blessed with this experience.

It was early morning. Nof the kind where you’d expect to find any trouble, but trouble I found. While listening to a podcast on controlling your response to events outside your control the speaker said a great time to test yourself is in traffic. Point taken. Moving on or so I thought. Within a minute of hearing this on my way to a camp down a winding, curvy, double lined road. I pulled up behind a gang of 12 bikers. 10 speed style. No where to safely pass and alternative route would have been longer. Sometimes God knows right what we need and when. Response controlled. Bikers were safe. It was a slow and painful drive but I was thankful for the preparation.

There is a constant battle between any leader and those they lead.  It’s how much is the leader doing vs how much the team is doing?  Getting this line where it should be is a great challenge for a coach and should be the goal of the team as well.  If you spend time in the weight room you’ve always got those “no spot” guys.  The ones who will never take any help under any amount of weight.  This causes the them to stay within what they already know they can lift and to not achieve gains as quickly as they would if they really maxed out.  You also have those that always want a spot on just about every set and rep.  They will also not achieve their maximum potential because they’re looking for a helping hand too early and too often.
We need our teams to be in the middle.  To have the pride and competitiveness to do all that’s within their power to do in order to maximize their growth while having the humility to know that they can’t reach the top without someone to take them past where they currently are.  Some coaches do too much for their teams.  They coach every screen, pass, and read.  Others don’t do enough.  They don’t scout, cover opponent tendencies, or make any adjustments in game to help their players excel.
We must know what they can do, what they can’t, and have the relationships, skills, and energy to make the difference.
Allowing a team to give less than they’re capable is a coach’s biggest fear. Being asked to give more than they’re capable is a player and team’s biggest frustration.  I believe we should always be searching for that line as it’s a place always on the move.  To have the leader have to carry more than they should weighs them down and detracts from their ability to do the real heavy lifting that takes the team to the top of who they could be.spotter

Not a question you really think about hearing I know.  I was in line waiting for my burrito to finish up recently when I drifted off.  I was likely thinking about some offense or defense or maybe not thinking at all when the man beside me said, “Is that your burrito coach?”  Yep, it was mine alright.  What struck me in this simple interaction is that I had no idea who he was.  I wasn’t wearing anything that said I was a coach, he just knew who I was.  This is so often the situation and I think it’s important for us to remember that we are always “on” when we’re out.  When people know who you are and that you’re in a position that comes with expectations the antennas go up. May we never give people a reason to remember us negatively.  You never know who’s beside you getting a burrito.

I just wanted to make a few observations on Villanova’s incredible run through the tournament.  You have to admire the recent run of the Wildcats, especially the last 3 years.  To hear a lot of commentators speak it’s the introduction of “positionless basketball” to the college game.  4 out 1 in and even 5 out spacing!!  Who’d have thought?

Well, it turns out a lot of people would’ve thought.  Not sure Pete Carril was the first to pull his big away from the rim opening up the paint, but we’ve seen this before.  The realization that having a big clog the block for .7 PPP when he does catch it is no way to win ball games.  If you’ve got one that can average over 1 PPP that the opposing coach will continue to allow to catch and work 1-1, more power to you!  If they can pass vs traps and stunting, that’s even better!

Before we all go out and put in Jay Wright’s offense the first available opportunity, we can look at some more general elements of their approach that can work in a variety of schemes.  (Nothing wrong with putting in Nova’s 4 out-1 in, of course, I’ve still go the original VHS from his Hofstra days!)

  1. The money’s in the mismatch.  Not posting your 5 doesn’t mean not playing in the post.  How many times did Brunson back his 6’0 defender down and make a driveway post up move?  More than their 5 caught it back to the basket I’d guess.  Same concept with Spellman draining 3’s over Azabuke.  (He only shot 2 in the title game.  Didn’t need to.)
  2.  The discipline of freedom: Nova’s guys play with incredible confidence.  We’ve all seen guys with an abundance of confidence, however, that have no business taking the type of shots or volume of shots that they do.  Nova’s guys play like guys who have practice those shots and frequently make them.  They take them within the flow and rarely took a bad shot twice in a row.
  3. The ball goes where it should when it should:  Open man gets the ball.  One more.  Whatever you want to call it, having 4 legitimate threats off the ball at all times is the hardest thing to guard in basketball.  They pass it just before it becomes obvious to the defense who is coming open.  Bad teams either don’t pass it or they pass just after the average fan sees it.  It’s too late then.  This is usually followed by an insincere and oft-repeated “my bad.”
  4. Unselfishness + Skill + Execution=Winning.  It always looked like Villanova’s team went in to games looking for what would work, not hunting stats.  Leading scorer could be any of them.  Let the game come to you.  Let your opponent’s mistakes open opportunities rather than slamming your head against their strengths.
  5. Defense not attached to offense: When you have a team worried about shot volume, points, who did and didn’t get the ball, defense suffers.  You can’t lock any one up, box out, rotate for charges, communicate when you are processing the crushing emotions of someone else besides you shooting on the other end…Nova came to guard regardless of who was shooting or how they shot individually.  They ended up 11th in the country on KenPom defensively.  Scoring is a whole lot easier when you don’t have to inbound all night.

Those are just a few of the things I saw and enjoyed from this year’s champions. Loved watching Michigan share it as well and would’ve been happy with either one lifting the trophy Monday night.  There’s been a lot written about Villanova’s approach these past couple weeks and it’s great stuff.  Remember that our X’s and O’s cant do what they do if they won’t do what they do.  The will and the won’t comes before the can and the can’t no matter what we run.